I had some chili about a month ago that was delicious. It burned my lips but wasn’t that hot. The guy who made it said he used a piece of the pepper about the size of an pencil eraser and the chili pot was probably 2 quarts.
You sound just like my grandfather. Dude used to grow the hottest peppers he could find, progressively hotter and hotter over the years. His lips and tongue might blister, sweat running down his face, but he would NEVER admit they were hot. Obstinate old cuss.
But he just turned 97 last month so maybe there’s something to be said for cleaning one’s self out via the pepper method.